March 2, 2026 By Kiri Jimerson LCMFT I can imagine the scenario. Maybe you are sitting at the kitchen table with your husband. You are trying to explain why marital help is important and why you both should give couples therapy a try. You are hoping this will finally be the thing that helps you improve your relationship. You try to help him see your perspective: Life together isn’t fun anymore. We used to enjoy each other. I don’t feel supported. I am not happy. But, it just isn’t...

Written by Kiri Jimerson LCMFT Couples Therapist and Psych-Energetic Relationship Consultant When we are faced with a challenging situation, our focus naturally narrows. We can only see our own version of the problem. Your nervous system does this to protect you. The trouble with this narrow focus is that from this restricted view, you only see option A as the solution. You totally miss options B, C, D, E, and F because they exist outside your current frame of reference. When you shift...

(Written for The Willow School NJ Wellness Newsletter for Parents) In one corner, here you are, already tired, a little sweaty, and holding onto the frustration that the laundry was left overnight in the laundry machine. Again. In the other corner, we have your partner, running on caffeine and good intentions, convinced they did their part and a little confused about how this turned into that. The bell rings. Arms start swinging. Words fly fast and sharp. A jab here. A defensive block there....