I see therapy as a way of organizing your inner world and the feelings that get stuck there. This is not an easy process, especially because many of us have not been shown how to deal with our emotions, or have never had the experience of emotional attunement to understand its importance. What we learn to do is to cope on our own with distress, which is too heavy of a load for the nervous system. Many of us do not have the experience of a caregiver helping us with our emotions as children. Have you ever had the stressful experience of being told not to cry, that your anger isn't welcome, to pull yourself up and focus on the task, not how you feel about it, being yelled at for expressing sadness, or being ignored for "behaving badly"? As children we get these messages, even if these words are not explicitly used. Without feeling understood emotionally, we learn to cope in a variety of ways to feel better immediately. We learn to rely on ourselves to feel better in these moments, when we actually need help with our painful feelings, even deserve the help. Without validation, we learn to turn away from others, away from our feelings, or become easily defensive because managing the discomfort alone is too painful. 

Fast forward many years, and you become an adult who continues to use the same coping strategy - because it has worked in making you feel better. The only problem is in your most important relationship, it gets you in trouble. You are not trying to cause trouble, far from it! But that very coping strategy that helped you feel better as a child, sends a different signal to your partner. What you are trying to do is manage your own distress, but the signals get crossed, and you end up sending a message about them or what the other did wrong. This happens for two reasons. First, you do not have healthy experience in communicating your emotions. Second, you are carrying around emotional baggage (researchers like Bessel van der Kolk have shown that unresolved trauma is stored in the body). It does not have to be this way, but it can feel impossible to do anything different. 

So what is the best way to feel relief from all these years of relying on yourself for a job that was never meant to be yours alone?

Therapy + ENERGY HEALING.

Energy healing has been the missing piece in my work with clients, until now! Using energy healing techniques get to the root cause of the problems you are experiencing. Once you start the process of allowing yourself to heal energetically, your entire world opens up to new possibilities. 

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I want to start a movement! When the clients I work with start to step in to their authenticity, they not only feel better in their most important relationship - their marriage!; they show up with this authenticity in all areas of their life, including with their kids. Cycles of disconnection are broken and love shines through. And spreading more love in this world feels pretty important to me! ​