Written by Kiri Jimerson LCMFT Couples Therapist and Psych-Energetic Relationship Consultant When we are faced with a challenging situation, our focus naturally narrows. We can only see our own version of the problem. Your nervous system does this to protect you. The trouble with this narrow focus is that from this restricted view, you only see option A  as the solution. You totally miss options B, C, D, E, and F because they exist outside your current frame of reference.   W

(Written for The Willow School NJ Wellness Newsletter for Parents) In one corner, here you are, already tired, a little sweaty, and holding onto the frustration that the laundry was left overnight in the laundry machine. Again. In the other corner, we have your partner, running on caffeine and good intentions, convinced they did their part and a little confused about how this turned into that. The bell rings. Arms start swinging. Words fly fast and sharp. A jab here. A defens

Written by Kiri Jimerson, LCMFT, Psycho-Energetic Relationship Consultant I didn’t start healing because I loved myself. I started healing because of my daughter.   It’s hard to admit that to you. Looking back, I did want to feel better, in fact, I felt miserable and longed for things to change. But the truth is, my first steps out of a really stuck place in my relationship weren’t motivated by self-love or believing that I deserved better. Nope. I was motivated by my beauti