How Motherhood Saved Me and Changed How We Parent Together

Written by Kiri Jimerson, LCMFT, Psycho-Energetic Relationship Consultant

I didn’t start healing because I loved myself.

I started healing because of my daughter.

It’s hard to admit that to you. Looking back, I did want to feel better, in fact, I felt miserable and longed for things to change. But the truth is, my first steps out of a really stuck place in my relationship weren’t motivated by self-love or believing that I deserved better.

Nope.

I was motivated by my beautiful daughter, Flori.

A few months after she was born, I started feeling helpless when it came to my marriage. My husband and I couldn’t get along. We disagreed on everything regarding parenting. Parenting was my entire world at the time.  

While she was young, I was deeply passionate about supporting Flori emotionally. I held her when she cried. I stayed with her in her anger and helped her express it safely. I validated her feelings again and again.

I knew that being a good mom meant supporting her emotional world.

What I hadn’t considered yet was this:

What was I modeling about how to live a happy life?

I was exhausted. My nervous system lived on edge. I wasn’t the present, relaxed, and loving mom that I wanted to be most of the time.

I remember meeting a family friend who shared about her energy healing work. As she spoke, I started to cry uncontrollably. She gently suggested that I take some time to sit with my feelings alone instead of allowing my daughter to absorb my stress. 

That landed deeply.

The last thing I wanted to do was pass my pain on to her.

So, I sat alone. The tears stopped, but the heaviness didn’t lift.

In that moment, sitting with my puffy, red eyes, something shifted – not relief, but determination.

Suddenly, I could see it clearly: I could support my daughter’s emotions all day long, but I didn’t know how to guide her towards happiness if I wasn’t living it myself.

That realization really hurt.

I knew I was failing because I wasn’t happy.

And I knew I had to do something different.

Not for me.

For her.

That was the moment I became open to working with that energy healer.   

And no, this wasn’t a magical “poof, I’m healed” situation (I wish!!). No, every session required me to come back to that same motivation again and again. Every time insecurity, fear, or doubt popped up, I thought of Flori.

My love for her helped me to see past my defenses and stay open to something better – for her, for us, and eventually, for me.

You know the feeling.

As moms, we’ll sacrifice anything for our kids. We just want to know that we’re doing everything we can to give them a happy life.

So when the opportunity came to do something drastically different, to actually believe in healing myself, I took it.

Investing my time, energy, and money into energy healing felt like a huge leap into the unknown. And it’s a leap I’ll never regret.

Because things changed.

• My triggers got smaller, and I began to recognize myself again. I felt more confident in my parenting and carried less guilt for having different views than my husband.

• I was less reactive, which made space for us to listen to each other. We didn’t suddenly agree on everything, but we started working together instead of against each other. Parenting felt more like a shared effort and less like a constant tug-of-war.

• I trusted myself more. I began modeling healthy boundaries—because I finally understood what I liked, what felt good, and what I needed.

• For the first time, I experienced real moments of peace. I felt happier. I felt proud of myself.

Maybe your kids are your motivation too.

Maybe loving yourself feels hard – but loving them makes change feel possible.

Just like I once took the hand that was offered to me, I am offering mine to you.

If you want your kids to see you as a happy, healthy mom – someone who loves herself, her life, and her relationship, I invite you to book a Free 45 minute Relationship Relief Call. 

Taking a step for your kids?

There is no better place to start.

Kiri + Flori